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Karen’s Story

My Dad has always been abusive to my Mum, me and my brother for as long as I can remember. It isn’t as bad as it used to be but I remember a lot of things from when I was a child. I’ve self-harmed for a number of years and have never told anyone what happened before.

One day I spoke to a teacher at college and a young person’s worker came in to speak to me there. I was worried about talking to them at first because I didn’t want my family to find out, but because she came into college I didn’t have to tell anyone. I had a couple of appointments and I found myself really opening up about what had happened at home.

As I’ve grown up I think the abuse at home impacted a lot. I never had friends over for tea and when I’d go to other people’s houses, it was nice and there was never any arguing or fighting.

I was worried I would end up in an abusive relationship too because it’s all I’ve ever known. I really opened up about things that had happened and my worker spoke to me about how it has affected me and future support. She reassured me that I didn’t have to end up in an abusive relationship just because my Mum and Dad had been. It’s been really helpful.

I’m getting support with my self-harm and I know I can talk about what’s happened in my family. I don’t feel so alone anymore and I’m not ashamed about what happened. I know it doesn’t have to carry on.